In some men’s lives when they were children, they experienced a traumatic event which they had to overcome in their childhood. This traumatic event could have been from their father dying when they were the age of four years old. The father could have also been alive but yet abandoned his wife and children leaving them feeling they were not loved and rejected. A man’s traumatic experience from his childhood could have also been from him being betrayed by someone he trusted that either physically, emotionally or sexually abused him. The abused which he suffered could have been so horrible that it has caused him to have nightmares in the middle of the night and has crippled him in his adult life.
When he grew up into an adult, the evidences of him being dropped has manifested itself by him being addicted to internet pornography, drugs and alcohol which he engages in too numb his pain. A man who has been dropped may also struggle with other things like depression, bipolar disorder and weight problems like obesity.
When the Bible first speaks about Mephibosheth, it was during when the news was reported that his grandfather and father were both killed. The grandfather of Mephibosheth was King Saul and his father was Jonathan which they were killed in battle fighting the Philistines. When the news was given to the house of Saul, there were was a nurse who took care of Mephibosheth because of him being five years old. The word of God never tells us anything about Mephibosheth’s mother if she was alive or had she died after him being born. However, the nurse that was assigned to Mephibosheth tried to flee with the others accidentally dropped him out of her arms, and he hit the ground. As a result of him hitting the ground Mephibosheth became lame in his feet and was not able to walk in his life. Since that day happen to Mephibosheth nothing else was mention about him and how he dealt with his grandfather and father’s deaths. Today there are men in the world and the church just like Mephibosheth who were dropped by somebody that was supposed to care for them. They are tormented by their past of their childhood and they are living in their present silent not allowing their voice to be heard by those who love them.
And Jonathan, Saul’s son, had a son that was lame of his feet. He was five years old when the tidings came of Saul and Jonathan out of Jez’-reel, and his nurse took him up, and fled: and it came to pass, as she made haste to flee, that he fell, and became lame. And his name was Mephibosheth (2 Samuel 4:4).
Somebody Dropped Me
One of the primary reasons I believe why most young boys are crippled in their childhood is because they were raised up in fatherless homes. According to an online article called the Fatherless Generation, “63% of youth suicides are from fatherless homes. At least 90% of all homeless and runaway children come from fatherless homes. Also, 85% of youths who are in prisons have grew up in fatherless homes. A man who has had grew up as a child in a fatherless home can sometimes suffer from a lack of trust in people and be suspicious of others that they will let him down as his father did. Each time his wife tries to become closer to him by showing her affection, he puts up his wall or runs into his man cave to shut her out. However, it is important for us as men to know that the Lord is the potter and we are the clay and He is still able to put us back on the wheel and make us new again (Jeremiah 18:1-4).
Another reason why men may have been dropped in their childhood is that their fathers may have been present in the home but absent in their lives. There may have been some of us who were preacher’s kids and our fathers made pastoring their churches more important than being fathers to their sons. The reason why most men fall into this trap is that they did not have a man in their life as a child to model before them what it meant to be a father. However, what most young boys do see in being two to three services a week is a distorted pattern of what they believe how a man should be a pastor in his church. Also, some men who are married and have children end up getting divorced because they had a misguided loyalty to wanting to serve their Bishop or Pastor at the same time neglecting their sons. During church service, a man’s wife and kids are sitting in the back of the congregation while the man is sitting up front with the deacons. The man for the most part never sits with his family and model before them how a man prayers, worship, and praises the God of his salvation.
Our sons are growing up in our churches being dropped by their fathers who are not there for them in the home and their childhood. When the son has his baseball, basketball or football game on Saturday afternoon, they looked in the stands and they see their mother but the empty seat next to her represents another broken promise not kept by the father. The Lord wants us as men to take responsibility and repent for dropping our sons and turn our hearts back to them. As we take ownership in our part in being absent in their lives, the Lord will heal our relationship with our sons and turn their hearts back us (Malachi 4:6).
Living in Lo debar
And the king said unto him, Where is he? And Zi’ba said unto the king, Behold, he is in the house of Ma’-chir, the son of Am’-mi-el, in Lo-de’-bar.
Then king David sent, and fetched him out of the house of Ma’-chir, the son of Am’-mi-el, from Lo-de’-bar (2 Samuel 9:4-5).
Lo Debar was a city located in Gilead which was east of the Jordan River and was about ten miles south of the Sea of Galilee. According to the Holman Bible Dictionary, the word Lo Debar means “no word or to him a word or to speak”. The word Lo Debar also means in the Hebrew language a place which is pasture less. The word of God tells us that Mephibosheth was living with a man whose name was Ma’-chir who was from the tribe of Manasseh. The tribe of Manasseh came from one of the sons of Joseph and his name mean the Lord has caused me to forget my affliction. When Joseph was promoted into his position of leadership by the Pharaoh, he gave Joseph his daughter to marriage which they had their firstborn son (Genesis 41:33-51). The birth of Joseph firstborn was a promise from the Lord that he no longer had to remember the pain of his past, what he endured from his father’s house, and being wrongfully in prisoned.
Have you ever lived in Lo Debar? Have you ever been in a place where you felt you were unable to communicate how you truly felt inside to someone? As men, we too can find it difficult to communicate how we feel with our spouses and our children because we are suffering silently within ourselves. We need to be fetched out of our Lo Debar because if we do not, the enemy will cause us to self-destruct and die at the hands of the silent killer called high blood pressure. Mephibosheth was living in a place where he was unable to communicate how he felt about his past and also his present condition. He had no man he could look up to and teach him how to be a man and was lame in his feet. However, just as the Lord did not forget Mephibosheth, he has not forgotten about you and me. As David’s heart yearned to bless someone from the house of Saul, the Father’s heart longs to be a Father that we needed when we were children and as men today (2 Samuel 9:1).
The King’s Table
And David said unto him, Fear not: for I will surely shew thee kindness for Jonathan thy father’s sake, and will restore thee all the land of Saul thy father; and thou shalt eat bread at my table continually (2 Samuel 9:7).
Now as Mephibosheth was brought before David, he laid prostrate before him not knowing that all he had lost would now be restored back to him by the commandment of the king. The days of not having his own and living beneath who he was destined to be would now come to an end. Through the grace and mercy of God, Mephibosheth experienced restoration, provision and fellowship in his life. Though Mephibosheth had a dead dog mentality at first, King David because of his covenant promise with Jonathan was still going to restore the land of Saul back to him. In Joel 2:25 the word of God says “And I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, the cankerworm, and the caterpillar, and the palmerworm, my great army which I sent among you”. The young Mephibosheth would have servants appointed to him that were required to minister and serve him. He would no longer be in a pasture less place but have the privilege of eating bread always at the king’s table.
According to Noah Webster’s New International Dictionary, the word restore means to bring back, as that which has been lost, or taken away. The word restore also can mean to renew; to reestablish, or to restore harmony among those who are variance. The land that once belongs to King Saul was a lost inheritance and was restored back to Mephibosheth through the commandment of the king. The land of King Saul for us as the church represents our godly inheritance in Christ. It also represents to us the provision of God which God has promised to provide for all of our needs according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus (Philippians 4:19). Finally, the king provided Mephibosheth a man named Ziba, his sons and servants to minister to his needs, the Lord has also provided us His ministering angels to watch over us. The word of God says in Hebrews 1:14, that the Lord has assigned His angels “to minister us because we are the heirs of salvation”.